Lighten Up, Won’t You?

Brotherly love

Brotherly love

Recently, Andrew has been going to bed later and later.  There have been nights in the last week that Chase falls asleep before Andrew does.  This has thrown me for a loop.  I have been extremely irritated at this change in sleeping habits.  Ryan has told me multiple times to relax and not let it bother me so much.  Easier said than done.

This morning, I was driving home from drop off and heard a piece on NPR’s Tucson Spotlight where Dave Barry was interviewed about a column he wrote about how much fun his parents’ generation had and how serious his generation has been about child rearing.  He says that his parents of the “Mad Men” generation had lots of fun while also being parents.  On the other hand, his own “Baby Boomer” generation took parenting so seriously  that it totally consumed them and a lot of the time, and they didn’t have any fun once they became parents.  He said that even though his generation was the sex, drugs and rock and roll generation, once they had children, they stopped all of that and made sure that their children were always happy, never had any obstacles, and never struggled.  During all of this, they as parents were so hyper focused on parenting the right way that they forgot to have fun.

I have to say, I feel that way sometimes.  Parenting is all consuming and not much fun

What you don't see is our children fighting in the background

What you don’t see is our children fighting in the background

sometimes.  I chose to have children so I need to just come to an understanding with myself that I can also have fun in the process.  I need to just lighten up and not let myself become consumed with the drudgery that comes with being a parent.  So, here’s my prescription for lightening up and enjoying the roller coaster ride.

1. If Chase falls asleep before Andrew, it is not a catastrophic event that will make my life miserable.  On the bright side, this too will pass AND, they both sleep through the night most of the time.  It could be a lot worse.

2. The house is never going to look like a spread in Architectural Digest, so accept the fact that it will look like Barney barfed LEGOS, dress up clothes, and coloring books.

3. They will eat when they are hungry and because I don’t keep twinkies, hot fries or slim jims in the house things are going to be ok.  Chase and Andrew do eat a lot of fruit…but it is fruit, not candy, so that’s a start.

4. I will have fun on my own and with Ryan.  We will do our own things and go on date nights and not feel guilty about it.

They talk, they play, they occasionally hug each other.  Chase and Andrew will make it through, hopefully unscathed.  I need to lighten up.




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  1. Loved this! Thank you for the reminder to chill. XO

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